Take Down!

Jake came home a couple of weeks ago with a flyer from school about wrestling camp.  Wrestling.  For 2nd graders.  Actually, it is for 2nd-5th graders.  I couldn’t believe that he wanted to do it.  I was even more dumbfounded when I agreed to to.

They’ve had 3 practices so far and tonight, I laughed harder than I have in a long time.  Belly laughs that made my stomach hurt.  My 43 pound son, the smallest in the room, was having a fantastic time.  He even managed to take down his opponent in one round.

Jake thinks that wrestling will help him be a better tetherball player. And, today he informed me that he prevailed in all three tetherball games he played.  I’m not sure it has much to do with wrestling, but if he thinks so, I’m not going to burst his bubble.

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Funny things kids say

Kids say the funniest things, don’t they?  Several of my friends have 2-3 year olds who are just starting to talk and express themselves.  They crack me up!  I have been meaning to write down some of the things Jake has said to me lately and decided to just put it here.

 Cuddling on the couch one day:

Me:  Jake, what I am I going to do when you don’t want to cuddle with me anymore?

J:  Mom, I will always want to cuddle with you…..

10 second pause

J:  Except when my wife is looking. 

Apparently, we’ve taught him well.

This past weekend, we were unloading a bunch of stuff at Goodwill.

J:  We used to go to Goodwill a lot, Mom.

Me:  I know.  We didn’t have very much money so we shopped at Goodwill more than we do now.

J:  And now, we just have a lot of stuff.

Profound.

Braveheart

It’s a little ironic that our family hails from Scotland – direct descendents of William Wallace.  My own son shares the name that has passed down for years in the Wallace family.  Despite the historical innacruacies, the movie rightly portrays William Wallace as a patriot, a hero and a brave warrior who fought for his country’s feedom.  He was inspirational as he led his men to battle, ill-eqipped as they were.  And, in the end, he never gave up hope – never stopped fighting.

I like to think that my son inherited more than his name, but also some of the characteristics that have left such an impact on history.  True, the stubborn streak is one that gives a mother fits….but without it, he may not be alive today.  He was born fighting – I was sick with pre-eclampsia which made the womb a hostile place for him and he was born pre-maturely weighing a mere 3 pounds.  Three days later, he was diagnosed with a heart defect.  As I look back, I realize the prognosis was very grim.  But, despite his tiny size and sick heart, I never saw him as weak.  Even the nurses’ in the NICU called him a wild man.  He was a true Wallace.  A true Braveheart.

Today starts Congenital Heart Defect Awareness Week.  It began in 1999 by an every day mom to a child born with a heart defect in an effort to educate the public and raise additional funding for support and educational services, scientific research, and improved quality of care for our children and adults.  Today it is an international coalition of families, individuals, non-profit organizations, support groups, and health professionals participating in a campaign to increase public awareness of Congenital Heart Defects and Childhood Heart Disease.

 A disturbing, and little-known statistic is that one in every 100 infants is born with a malformed heart.  More babies are born with CHD than with spina bifida, Down’s syndrome and hearing loss. Yet, heart defects are sometimes overlooked and not routinely diagnosed in newborns.   Until my son was born, I didn’t know anyone with a CHD.  Now, I know so many.  It isn’t that it’s rare…I think it’s that we don’t pay attention to a cause until it impacts our life in some way.  I want people to be impacted NOW – before they experience this.  Yes, it’s time we start screening babies for heart defects.  But, until that happens, those of us who have weathered the storm can provide hope for those who are just beginning the journey.   You can read my son’s whole story by clicking on Our Little Braveheart in the blogroll on the right.

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I’m okay!

I’m somewhat of a mother hen.  Some might call me over-protective.  I bet the question I ask Jake more than any other is “Are you okay?”…or “How are you feeling?”  Lately, I’ve noticed that any time I hear a crash from the other room, or if he coughs (or just clears his throat), he’ll yell “I’m okay!” 

I know, I know.  Anxiety won’t add a single hour to my life.  I’m working on that.

This morning he knocked his noggin on the amoire.   He looked at me and said “I’m okay, Mom”.  I said, “Are you sure?  That sounded like it hurt”.  He responded indignantly – “My brain is not broken.  I know because I’m talking”. 

Alrighty then.

P.U.S.H.ing the F.R.O.G. for Dylan

About 9 years ago I “met” a group of expecting moms on iVillage.com.  Most of us were first time moms and used the site to navigate through our pregnancies, childbirth and raising baby.  It was so much more valuable than any parenting book I had read because these were real people, in different walks of life, all sharing a similar experience.    Amazingly , a group of us are still  hanging out together in an online world…although it is more than just a message board now….we are friends– as involved in eachother’s lives as if we lived next door to one another.  We share ups, downs, good and bad.  We fight and we make up.  We share in eachother’s joys and sorrows.  And, when a member of the community is in need, we do our best to meet it.  I have had the priviledge of praying for these women for a myriad of different things. 

Dylan was diagnosed with leukemia in January 2007.  It was devastating for all of us, as it was sadly the second child of “ours” that had battled cancer (Katie’s our other fighter, who I’ll devote another entry to at another time).  He’s been through numerous chemotherapy treatments, a bone marrow transplant (from his little brother)  and has now recieved Natural Killer Cells from his dad.  His mom updates his Caring Bridge site (see link on the sidebar) daily and I have come to greatly anticipate those updates so that I know specifically how to pray for him.  

I am amazed by Heide, Dylan’s mom.  Because I know the pain of having a sick child, I understand how hard it is to keep your chin up on a daily basis.  People look to you to know how to act – it can be an enormous burden and some days seems impossible.  Heide has wonderful quotes that she shares – which have given me great inspiration over the past year.  She has also taken on a couple of acronyms….F.R.O.G. stands for Fully Relying on God.  And, this family is….it’s amazing and uplifting to witness their faith.  The other is P.U.S.H – Pray Until Something Happens.  And, in her wonderful humor, she’s put them together and we are all Pushing the Frog.   I found this delightful picture the other day – this brave little frog, clinging to new life.  It reminds me of Dylan – and makes me smile.  Hang in there Dylan.  We love you!

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