I’ve been thinking about a Father’s Day post for a few days. Several different things have run through my head on how I wanted to present my thoughts. I have written, erased, edited and walked away from this post for a couple of days now. In the end, I think it’s just impossible for me to put into words the feelings I have because I don’t think it will do justice or properly honor the men in my life who have been examples of great dads.
Relationships are complicated. But, I really do believe that in most cases, people do the best they can with what they have to work with. Sometimes, it’s not much. Parenthood does not come with a manual. The only thing we know about being parents is what we learned from our own experiences. How those experiences inform our own parenting varies from person to person.
My son has an amazing dad. He is teaching Jake how to be a man — that it’s important to work hard and provide for your family — but to never put your work ahead of your family. He has shown him that it’s okay to take risks. It’s okay to make mistakes as long as you learn from them. He shows him how to treat women in the way that he loves and shows affection for me. Most importantly, he loves God and is teaching Jake to follow Jesus. And, the thing is that Jake really has no idea that not all dads are this way. And, that’s okay. He will someday — and hopefully it will result in a continuation of the cycle.
I got a call this morning that my own dad was admitted to the hospital last night. He has a bad heart and has some tests run to figure out what is going on. My dad and I have not always had the best relationship, but we have come a long way over the years. I love him with all my heart and he knows it. I haven’t always been good at telling him, but I have tried to make sure that I do it as often as I can now because you never know when you might not have another chance.
I know most people told their dads they loved and appreciated them today. Keep telling them.
Happy Father’s Day to all of the amazing dads out there.